For as long as I can remember I was a procrastinator. & along the way I even partially convinced myself that I do “better work” when it’s done the last minute because of the forceful energy behind it. Well, I learned that wasn’t true at all, and yet I still found myself procrastinating.
About a month ago I began a coaching certification course by the amazing soul Alyssa Nobriga - I will link her site and IG below if you haven’t seen some of her work. 10/10 highly recommend.
& Throughout the beginning part of this journey we began looking into blocks - specifically outer blocks and then how to trace them back to their core desire. While watching one of our assigned videos she said clear as day, “procrastination is often a deeper desire to relax.”
My jaw dropped to the floor and my state of awareness began shifting immediately. Never in my life have I heard someone speak of that correlation. & as those few words were spoken it was as if I downloaded a whole book within me that understood every aspect of this concept and went through my past to verify YUP THAT’S WHAT WAS GOING ON.
You see most of us think of procrastination as being…..
& In reality none of that is true. None of that is the cause of procrastination, but it is often the result of procrastination.
See how we get them mixed up? We think because we’re so unorganized we procrastinate, but really we are so unorganized because we procrastinate. I know mind blown.
This deeper rooted desire wants to RELAX!! & Procrastination often affects high achievers, workaholics, and driven people the most because we are constantly in a state of being on the go. It’s GO GO GO GO DO MORE DO MORE WHAT ELSE CAN WE DO AM I DOING ENOUGH LETS GOOOOOOOOOOOO. (Which that is another aspect to work through on it’s own)
& since there is really never any designated time to rest (since we feel we should be working 14 hours a day) then we begin to sneak it in throughout the day.
We know our day is jammed with activities from dusk to dawn and that thought alone is exhausting and makes me want to do nothing.
For me this realization was coupled with a realization that truly relaxing and taking time to recharge was almost a “waste of time” which goes against everything I stand for. & yet because it didn’t feel like a task that would lead directly to making money or getting a certain outcome, then it wasn’t worth the energy.
The truth of the situation is that in order to show up the best and be the best that we can be in this life for ourselves and for others - we must embody a balanced state of being that is deeply intertwined with time to recharge and relax.
Soooo what do we do with this new revelation? Well we do something about it. If we procrastinate bc we want to relax - let’s try a little experiment and see how a day goes when we schedule in relaxation and determine at 5pm or 3pm that we stop working, and when I say stop working we really stop working.
& I tried it, and I was the most productive I have ever been in my life. I knew that in a few hours I had scheduled out some time to stretch and take a break so I felt more energy staying focused on my current task. & I knew that at 4pm I was done for the day & whatever I get done, I get done. I am human, I am not a working robot.
Procrastination thinks it’ helping us by giving us some small breaks throughout the day, but it’s way more serving to find focus and know that its ok and there is time to relax too.
If you’re reading this I hope this realization helps you as much as it helped me. & I would love to hear about how this resonates with you.